It's about time...

When I was nineteen I stupidly got married--the only good thing to come out of it was my son. I kept his last name until I re-married about three years ago. Like the tradition calls, I took soon to be ex hubby's last name. The only thing I never changed my last name on was my license...it has always been in my maiden name.


I finally got tired of people asking me my last name and trying to remember who has my married and who has my maiden name on file. I called the SS service yesterday and explained to them the situation, hubby and I are separated but at this point probably never going to get the official divorce.

Apparently all I have to do is show them my license and I can get my maiden name back! I'm sooooooo excited! I just hope what the woman told me was true!

Wish me luck!

How sick...

There are two things in this world I can not stand, people hurting children and people hurting animals. These are two creatures that can't help themselves...animals more than children. At least a child knows to go to the police and report the abuse...it doesn't always happen since they can be threatened, still there is always hope to get a child help.

Animals on the other hand, they have no voice. They can't run to the police or a trusted adult. They, in my mind, suffer more. Take my dog for example. He was a puppy mill dog, when I got him, he hated men. He had separation issues and food issues. He also didn't care for children. Almost three years after helping and loving him, he runs to men or children to play! He no longer licks at things in a separation anxiety. And, while he's a grub, he has no food issues. Watching him evolve from a scared anxious min pin to the lovable dog he's become is like watching your child grow.

There's a woman in Washington State who felt the need to starve the horses she had on her farm. Two are dead, two probably won't make it and all were starved with lice and rot on them. This is sick, just like the Michael Vick dogs.

Those dogs were to be destroyed, until some determined people set out to help these animals. Most of them have learned to love and be loyal and are up for adoption. I give kudos to these people, what they did to save lives is indescribable. They are angels in the eyes of these dogs.

We need to realize that most children do have a voice, but animals don't. Treat an animal the way you would want to be treated. If you're hungry, there's a 90% chance the animal is hungry. If you're cold, there's a chance the animal is too.

Would you want to be starved? Live in a cold barn? Or, how about my lovely neighbors, last year, it was below freezing, yet they let their dogs outside. I could hear them barking all night. They were cold while these people were warm in their beds.

I guess I'm a little nutty, but I'm so passionate about helping animals. One day I want to open my own shelter to help these defenseless animals. Until then, I will continue to stand on my soapbox and adopt them from a shelter.

As if we didn't know...

When a celeb who runs around in nothing but tight fitting clothes, suddenly comes out wearing loose fitting, billowy and flowing dresses, she did not eat a huge meal and is hiding her bloated belly--she's pregnant.

The rumors started weeks ago when Angelina who normally dresses in skin tight clothes suddenly came out wearing this:

People FINALLY confirmed what we all knew though, she's pregnant and adding to her army of kids. I stand by what I've said for months/years though. When I adopt an animal from a shelter I have to wait six months to a year before adding to my animal farm. The same needs to stand for people, especially since humans are more emotional and intuitive than animals. She just adopted Pax and Shiloh isn't even two years old again! Five kids is just four too many. She seriously needs to stop while she's ahead.

Good for her...

Despite all the rumors of a "Britney Law" running around it looks like she may finally be getting her act together. People magazine is reporting that she should soon be able to spend time with her kids! She's realy been out of the news for anything bad--like flashing her hoo-hoo or being checked into a mental facility. It's sad that it had to come to mom and dad taking over her life like she was 12 instead of 26, but if that's what gets the world our old Britney back, then I'm all for it! You go girl! We are cheering for you.

In other news, it looks like the rumor mill is pounding out more Brangelina rumors---in the last week, she's pregnant with twins, they are planning a secret New Oreleans wedding and she collapsed on a flight from Iraq. Yeah, I'm still not impressed by those two.

Everyone calls Britney a media whore, truth is, it's those two who are the media whores. You can never pick a magazine or newspapr without seeing some "good deed" those two are doing!

Lost Friends....

Don't ever mix money with friendship and if you do don't expect A) the friendship to last and B) to ever get paid back from what you gave out.

I know not all people are like that, hell just like the men I meet some friends I have don't give a shit about you, don't care that you paid their bills while yours never got paid. I lost a friend this month, a very good friend, someone I considered my best friend. All because I decided I couldn't have my credit run down and keep being late on my bills. I worked 40+ hours every week while she barely made it to work 4 days a week! After all that I was told I still need to pony up the rent for Feb, nice huh?

Years and years ago I gave my high school best friend $200 to buy groceries for her kids (she had 3). A few years later I got married and hubby and I WORKED for what we had, the jewelry , tv's, computers...and she stopped talking to me because of what I had. Nice.

Friends come and go, but true friends will stick by you and understand things. I know you would never turn your back on me (you know who you are.) Because, we've had our differences and came to terms with them! I wish I lived closer or you lived closer, cause I know we'd have a blast!!!

love you!

Men suck...

But, that's just my opinion. I was sorta of seeing this guy, I say sorta because I told him to never us the R word (Relationship), the two C words (Commitment and Cunt), the L word (Love) or the M word (Marriage) to me ever. I told him I was not his girlfriend and that he would have to deal with my issues. Probably a little harsh on my part, but I just got out of a marriage (still technically married) and my heart was really crushed in the split.

While hubby and I have come to terms with the split we remain pretty good friends. When I lost my job he was there to help with my car payment, when I needed to move he was the ONLY one to help me lug shit up three flights of stairs (no the new guy didn't help any).

So why was it last week new guy specifically told me that I needed to remember I was with him and not my hubby? Or Saturday when I logged into my email there was this long detailed message from new guy about how hubby was trying to get into some girls pants and was lying to her and never told her about me?

WTF??? Why did any of the second part pertain to me? I've been consistent in telling people that hubby is a great friend. A liar and cheater, yes, but a great friend...just don't marry him! LOL

What was new guys point in telling me any of this? His reason--he was looking out for a friend. Who? Me or her?

I point blank told him to go to hell. That if he was that intimidated by my friendship with hubby he might as well take a hike, because I wouldn't stop being friend with him. No, there's no reason for us to be friendly, we don't have kids together--we could sign the divorce papers and go our separate ways--but, we've known each other for 8 years, and well, I love him. Not husband and wife love, but I love him as a friend. As he does with me. He's been there for me and I have for him. If any new guy in my life can't accept that then...I guess i'll be alone forever!!! LOL

Men royally suck!

Slackass....

A wise woman introduced me not only to the term but the way to slackass so well...thanks KJ!


I've been sooooooo busy! The first of the month my body gave in to it and I got the flu. I was able to make it to work for three days with a 103 temp but on the fourth day I could not move! I walked like an old woman and everything ached.

Then it was decided that I needed to move...long story short, I love her to death but I will never have a roommate again. So, last weekend and this weekend (AFTER getting over the flu) I moved into my very own apartment! It's a third floor walk-up so again I was walking like a damned old woman!! But, it's mine all mine! And, I absolutely love it!

And, now after I get my desk up here, mom and dad guilted me into coming to see them (Catholic guilt works such wonders! My mom should have been a damned nun, she works the guilt really well.) So, I'm headed down there for the weekend.

All I really want is one blissful weekend with just me and my dog. That's it, laying in bed all day flipping through Lifetime! Not next weekend, I have to work but the weekend of March 1st anyone who bugs me will be severely hurt! LOL

And, that my friends is why I've slackassed on the blog...lol

Jen